Samiha - Works as a project manager in a software development company. She has been a mother for a few months. Finding a child who has been left at home in tandem with various office work throughout the day. Five people work on his team. Everyone is very dedicated at work.
Today there is a project presentation at 10 am. 9:50 p.m. But Samiha is still stuck in a traffic jam. The baby had a vaccination date today. It was too late to manage the other side. Somehow, after entering the office, he went straight to the conference room and saw that Shahadat had taken the presentation a little further. Samiha tried to apologize to the boss for the delay, but he gestured to silence her. But in the end, the client was happy with the presentation and gave them the job. Boss Farid Sahib congratulated Samiha and also appreciated her teamwork. But still, Samiha is upset. It is as if he is having trouble changing his life. He himself seems to be unable to give anything to the company. Thinking about all this makes his pain worse. At that time, Samiha spoke loudly to the peon who had brought tea to the room. After a while, he misunderstood himself and hid his tears. Shahadat came and said, "Ma'am, we were supposed to have a discussion." Putting all thoughts aside, he sat down for a discussion with the team.
By dividing the burden of one part of the project among five people, while the whole work is being discussed, phone calls start coming from the home. Samiha picked up the phone after getting hung up once and twice. The tension works more with the child. Again he began to feel guilty. He can't handle any aspect.
It's about 7:30 in the evening. Couldn't finish his work yet. The boys and girls of the team are still working hard on it. When I went to talk to them about work, they said to Samiha, "Ma'am, you go home. We can finish the job. " Samihar's pain increased. At one time he used to give instructions for the project by keeping them busy with his work. They don't need him today.
When he came out, he stopped again and went to the team. The children stopped working and looked at Samiha. Samiha said, “You don't need me anymore, do you? I can't give you good instructions like before. Your work is not progressing because of me. Samiha started crying saying this. Shahadat, Aditi, Sourav, Imran, Trisha all said together, “It's not like that ma'am. You have always encouraged us. Thanks to your advice, we are still able to finish the job properly. You are our role model. ”Hearing their words, Samiha started crying more. Aditi said, "Ma'am, you should go to the baby now. You will get the project ready tomorrow morning." Imran said, "Ma'am, I will mail it before 10 o'clock." Everyone laughed and agreed. Samiha could not laugh anymore. With wet eyes, he smiled and said "Good night" to the children. Suddenly everything seems light. Guilt is no longer working in itself.
Yes, that's right. After becoming a mother, holding a career becomes challenging for women. Many women lose their children and their careers. In the end, most women give up their careers. One of the main reasons for this is the lack of cooperation in the workplace. It is accompanied by postpartum depression. Samihar's upset over the above story is also part of the postpartum.
Postpartum depression is not a disease. Holding a baby for ten months, waiting for her to be born - these are all stressful things for a pregnant woman. Which remains somewhat even after childbirth. It is seen after the birth of a child - it cries for no reason, it is annoying to see more people or crowds, it is always restless, it makes the head itchy, it creates an inferiority complex with its physical changes, etc. About 70-80% of women are found to have this problem after childbirth. This problem can last from two to three days after the birth of the child and last for the next two to three weeks. It is medically called baby blues. When baby blues last a long time, it is called postpartum depression.
In the case of working women, it is even more difficult for those who return to work after giving birth to a child when colleagues and everyone in the office do not help her. We pretend not to see things where our responsibility is to make things easier. Awareness of these issues has come to western countries long ago. It is important to raise awareness about these issues in our country as well. Let's not wait for someone to be aware of when we should be aware of our position. If your coworker is a new mom, support her at work for a while. Find the good and the bad in your work. If there is any problem, give him advice or suggestions as much as you can. It's not just about coworkers who have just become mothers. If you have noticed stress or depression in your new co-worker, give him or her mental support from your position as a conscious person.
Samihar's colleagues in the above story are excellent examples of this. He is not the only one who has explained this to Samiha by distributing work among himself and helping in various ways. At the same time, in a battle between career and child-rearing, they have become friends with Samiha. Let us know ourselves, let others know. Many such stories can save a lot of Samihar's career if there is a conscious co-worker and positive work environment.